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The Goodness Squad Podcast Episode #3
How to work with kids at home
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Misty: This is episode #3 of The Goodness Squad podcast. I want you to imagine that you have just had your 4th baby in about 3 years. She's around 10 months old. Her husband recently graduated from law school, and you've just found out that he lost his job. That was me about 10 years ago. And I want you to think about what sort of advice you would have given me.
I desperately wanted to bring in some extra income for our precious little family, but I also had four littles at home and trying to work from home. It was hard. Today in this episode, I am going to tell you what I wish someone would have told me back then. I'm Misty Marsh, I've built and sold a profitable online business.
And now I'm on a mission to lift you and increase your influence for good online. Thank you for being here today. If you're already subscribed to the show, thank you so much. And if you're here for the first time and want to turn your blog or podcast into a full-fledged online business where you share your talents and goodness without sacrificing your home-centered focus, then welcome to The Goodness Squad.
You have found a community of like-minded women. Make sure you subscribe because today, like in every episode, I've given you a bite-sized, easy to process and easy to implement tip for your online business. As the coronavirus, and social distancing and homeschooling take over our lives as moms we're at home with kids has become both a necessity for some of us and even more difficult than it typically is.
I have four kids ages 9 to 12 and I work from home and I've been working from home since 2007 when my oldest twin boys were born. I. Get it. I get the unique set of challenges that comes from working at home with kids, and it's not easy.
Before I jump into the tips that I've got for you today, I want to offer a bit of hope and encouragement. I get it. I typically work 24 hours per week. Well I tried to homeschool my kids that first week I was only able to work about four, but I have adjusted and I'm using the tips I'm going to share with you today to help.
One of my very favorite things about having less time to get something done is that it forces me to focus on the most important things. Being productive isn't really about doing more. It's about learning how to say no to what is less important.
So you can do what is most important and a limited amount of time compels you to choose.
What is the most important?
The hours I have worked since my kids have been home from school since I've been trying to pseudo homeschool them have been my most productive. I'm hoping that you'll find yourself moving the needle in your business in ways you've never had during this unique time in history. All right. Let's go on to my three tips.
First, set boundaries between work, time, and family time. This requires clear communication and expectations. If you want to learn how to work home or get home with kids, you've got to get good at your communication. Treat your kids as if they're part of a family council. Be open with them about why you need to work and what your work provides for them.
For example, my kids know that my job gives incredible fulfillment to me, which makes me a happier mom than I am with them. They also know that the money I earned pays for our family vacations and allows me to help and serve and give to others. Let your kids know what it is that your business means to you, why you're doing it, and the blessings that it brings to your family.
Next, ask them what they would like to have time with you. Would they prefer that in the morning after lunch, right before bed? Even little kids, two and three-year-old kids are going to have an opinion here and if they feel like they are being listened to, they are going to be much more likely to respect the boundaries you set once you know when they would like to have time with you.
Establish rules about when and how they can interrupt you when you're working and what things they should be able to handle on your own. If it's a problem where somebody is going to be hurt. Then that is an emergency and you need to come to get mom, but if it is a problem where no one is being hurt, then you need to work it out on your own.
Obviously you would need to adjust that for your own family and kids. But I felt I've found that to be a relatively good guideline, important than the idea of boundaries is the fact that you must respect those boundaries as well. Discipline yourself to only work. During work time. Get off your phone when it's family time and kid time.
Don't check your email. Give your family your full attention. Be present as you do so your kids will learn that they're important to you and they'll feel less of a need to bug you while you are working because when you are with them, you're 100% there. Okay.
Tip number two is one you might have heard before, but I have a few pieces of advice here that might be new to you. The tip is to create a routine with your kids. The kids thrive on routine. They need to know what's going to happen when and what to expect in order to stay emotionally stable. So follow the same basic pattern every day, but let yourself be flexible within the exact times. If you're a mom, you know, kids create unexpected circumstances.
You need to accept that and expect it. Embracing the unexpected is going to make it easier for you to go with the flow and keep your stress from rubbing off on your kids, which is just going to make your job harder. So create a routine, but be flexible with the exact times inside this routine. Schedule your work during sleep time for your kids whenever possible.
If you're a morning person, consider getting up an hour or two before your kids and working while the house is quiet or maybe an hour or two after they go to bed. Or if all your kids still nap, work while they're napping, just make sure that you're getting enough sleep yourself because grumpy moms rub off and create grumpy kids. Make sure that you include exercise in your routine. This helps your kids to get their energy out. One of the things I did often when my kids were little and I've started doing again now during the coronavirus, is to exercise with my kids. We have dance parties. We run up and down the stairs. We do a gazillion jumping jacks, pushups, and it's fun. It builds a relationship. It also helps them to get their energy out. Make sure your routine has built-in breaks. When my kids were little, I would set a timer for 15 to maybe 30 minutes, and then I would take a 10-minute break to play with the kids.
Now that they're older, I can typically get an hour or two between the breaks that I'm taking. I'm also going to tell you to use your screen time to your advantage. Schedule it during the baby's nap so you can work while everyone is occupied, or you can even require that screen time be active, like go noodle or the connect on Xbox, or Just Dance Kids so that they're getting exercise while they're in front of the screen.
As my kids transitioned out of napping, we added something called quiet room time into their routine. I would create a board bucket for them which was full of age-appropriate toys and activities that they could do on their own. And I would have them play with that bucket for 30 to 60 minutes depending on the cannon.
Since they only got to play with these toys during quiet room time, they looked forward to that time every day. That would give me some time as they were transitioning out of that nap. As you are trying to set up this routine, use your alone time for just work. So don't exercise alone. Exercise with your kids. Don't clean the bathroom alone, clean the bathroom with your kids. You are only going to get so much alone time, so use it for activities that need your 100% focused and that your kids cannot help with.
For example, when my kids were little, I would read my scriptures before they woke up because they were so distracting. But now that they're older and their homework all day during this coronavirus, we read our personal scriptures together. We are all in the same room, but reading separately.
My last tip as you build your routine is to make sure that you schedule one on one time with your kids. Kids thrive on connection and it's difficult for them to feel connected to you if they don't ever get your undivided attention. So schedule that. With each of your kids as part of your routine. It doesn't have to be hours, but if they are getting that one on one time, they are going to be less likely to demand it when you do need to work.
My last tip is to involve your kids in your work. When mine were babies, like little babies, I'd wear them or I would put them in a bouncer next to me and bounce them with my foot. As they got to be a little bit older, I would save housework for times when I was not working and times when they were not napping so that I didn't have to do housework while they were napping and I had them help with things like cleaning windows.
Now I understand that a two-year-old child is not extremely helpful when you're trying to clean a window, but you know what? It occupies them. I would spray it, give them a paper towel and they would wipe the window and I would go get a few dishes washed and I'd come back and spray it again or spray off different windows and have them wipe that window.
It gave us time together and it taught them to work as they had grown. I've actually been able to involve them in my business. The business I had before this one was centered around emergency preparedness and I used to have them help me cook food storage recipes, and they always got to be in my pictures.
They loved that. As they have gotten even older, I now have them download stock images and remain them in descriptive ways. So instead of image one, two, nine, zero five, seven, six, they name it. Bright, happy white desk flowers so that I can easily search and find images. I have them transcribe videos for me.
I've had them create Google slides templates. I've had them take blog posts and turn them into slides so that I can create videos out of them. I have my girls, you might have noticed, end every podcast episode for me, and it makes them feel involved. So do what can you do to actually involve your kids in your business and make them feel like they are a part of it.
So there you have it. My three tips are #1- set boundaries between your work time and your family time. Tip #2- make sure you have a routine that is flexible. And #3- involve your kids in your work, whether that's housework or business work. All right, I hope those tips help you find a little bit more balanced home with your business. And your family.
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